Feelings are something we have, not something we are.'

Revealing the complexity of emotions such as happiness, anger, fear, and jealousy, and how these are based on our perception of other people, Ilse Sand offers her professional wisdom on the psychology of feelings. Establishing that emotions are not always as appropriate as they first appear to be, the book encourages you to take a closer look at why you are feeling certain things, and how you can change how you feel. Especially written for highly sensitive people, guidance is included on how to identify the vulnerable feelings that often underlie our more volatile emotional states, and practical activities are suggested to help to embrace or reject sadness, delay impulsive actions, and allow yourself to be happy. Drawing on real-life examples throughout, the book offers you the means to improve your understanding of not only your own emotions and emotional actions, but those of others. The book will be immensely useful not only to people who feel things strongly, but to those who have trouble understanding or interpreting emotions and how to respond to the feelings they provoke.

Ilse Sand is a theology graduate from the University of Aarhus, where she wrote her Master's thesis on C.G. Jung and Søren Kierkegaard. She is also trained in several psychotherapeutic approaches and is registered with the Association for Psychotherapy in Denmark. After being employed for several years as a parish priest for the Danish National Church she now works as a supervisor, trainer, speaker and therapist. See more at www.highlysensitive-hsp.com

Preface. 1. Introduction. 2. Finding Your Primary Feeling in the Present . 3. Distance Yourself from Your Thoughts. 4. Avoid Unnecessary Conflict. 5. Listen to the More Soft and Vulnerable Feelings That Lie Beneath Anger. 6. Say What You Wish for and Want. 7. Resist Being "Sad" or Embrace It Entirely. 8. Use Your Envy Constructively. 9. Listen to Your Feelings of Jealousy. 10. Know Your Fear. 11. Holding Back When Feelings Grow Strong. 12. Let Joy and Happiness Unfold. 13. Invest in Your Relationships. 14. Save the Explanations: Expand Your Self-image. 15. Story: Hope. 16. Appendix. Write a farewell letter. Example of farewell letter A. Example of farewell letter B. Acknowledgements.