AARP Digital Editions offer you practical tips, proven solutions, and expert guidance. InLoving Someone Who Has Dementia, Pauline Boss provides research-based advice for people who care for someone with dementia.

Nearly half of U.S. citizens over the age of 85 are suffering from some kind of dementia and require care.Loving Someone Who Has Dementia is a new kind of caregiving book. It's not about the usual techniques, but about how to manage on-going stress and grief. The book is for caregivers, family members, friends, neighbors as well as educators and professionalsanyone touched by the epidemic of dementia. Dr. Boss helps caregivers find hope in "ambiguous loss"having a loved one both here and not here, physically present but psychologically absent.

Outlines seven guidelines to stay resilient while caring for someone who has dementiaDiscusses the meaning of relationships with individuals who are cognitively impaired and no longer as they used to beOffers approaches to understand and cope with the emotional strain of care-giving

Boss's book builds on research and clinical experience, yet the material is presented as a conversation. She shows you a way to embrace rather than resist the ambiguity in your relationship with someone who has dementia.

Pauline Boss, PhD, is emeritus professor at the University of Minnesota and was visiting professor at Harvard Medical School, 1995-1996, and Hunter School of Social Work 2004-2005. She is best known for her groundbreaking research as the pioneer theorist and clinical practitioner of stress reduction for people whose loved ones are ambiguously lost.

Preface ix

Acknowledgments xiii

Introduction xv

1 The Ambiguous Loss of Dementia: How Absence and Presence Coexist 1

2 The Complications of Both Loss and Grief 21

3 Stress, Coping, and Resiliency 37

4 The Myth of Closure 55

5 The Psychological Family 71

6 Family Rituals, Celebrations, and Gatherings 91

7 Seven Guidelines for the Journey 109

8 Delicious Ambiguity 137

9 The Good-Enough Relationship 155

Conclusion 167

A Note to Caregivers About Working with Health Care Professionals 173

Resources 181

Notes 187

About the Author 215

Index 217